Love, Friendship, Sex, BDSM, Travel and everything in between. More times than not it becomes difficult describing what we would not like a relationship. It’s easier, but dating satisfaction on your terms is harder if you aren’t vocal about your needs. Most of us do want to let the other partner know of our expectations from them, but simply find it hard explaining to them what we want. Also, everybody can see the problem, and hence identify what’s wrong to let their partner know but we don’t the opposite very often. Trying asking yourself what you want and do not want from your current relationship, and you’ll find it way easier to define the issues than the expectations. The point is to address the issues as well but also keep on informing each other of your needs so you can keep adding stuff to your relationship that can keep you satisfied individually and as a couple. Being vocal about your needs is actually a tool to make your relationship successful.

This is especially true for a sugar arrangement where it is all about mutual benefits for the Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy. When you talk about what you need, it gives your partner an opportunity to respond to your needs, having the way for a smoother relationship. Your partner can’t read your mind, and expecting that from them will only build negative feelings for them within you. No one is capable of reading your mind. Communicating is something that should be taken as a responsibility towards yourself and your sugar arrangement. Only you know what you want, no one else can define your needs better than you.

Vocalize Without Shame
When you and your partner have an overall sense of satisfaction, smaller issues wouldn’t stand a chance and can be ignored. On the other hand, keeping your expectations from your partner to yourself puts you on a track to hating them for no reason. You feel your arrangement isn’t fun anymore and that is because your partner is unable to keep you satisfied. Sugar arrangements don’t work if the Sugar Daddy is satisfied and the Sugar Baby is not, or vice versa.

For instance, what if you are a Sugar Baby who isn’t comfortable in getting intimate with your Sugar Daddy without cosplay, or you’d simply want role-play incorporated more often? How far do you think you will be able to take your relationship without telling them this? Eventually, you will feel misunderstood and the distance between the two of you will start growing at a rapid pace. When you ask your partner for what you want, you instantly feel confident and it benefits your relationship as well.

Communicating Shouldn’t Make You Feel Needy
It may seem easy, but the hardest part in all the communicating that you do with your partner is figuring how to actually talk to them! The first step towards your goal of being vocal is to talk define what your needs are and would they make for reasonable demands within the dynamics of your relationship. Know that a Sugar Daddy will be happy to meet all your needs because he realizes that only a satisfied Sugar Baby can make him happy. Also, by communicating your needs, you can even gauge if your relationship is growing in the right direction. If your Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby becomes instantly interested in listening to what you’ve got to say, it means your relationship is one where your partner cares for you.

Ask yourself that if you have whatever you have listed as your needs, would you feel even more content with your arrangement? Approaching them with this much clarity in your head will make you feel confident. For instance, if you want to travel more with your Sugar Dady, evaluate what it will bring to the relationship so you have an easier time selling the idea.

Express Your Expectations
The final part in being vocal for satisfaction on your terms is to sit with them to explain your expectations. Make sure you lay everything out on the table and not keep any aspect to yourself. Also, explain why this is something you would want your sugar arrangement to have? Moreover, always remember that relationships and sugar arrangements are a two-way road and using the ‘I’ too much in your statements can make them feel it’s about you.

Couples shouldn’t have a problem expressing themselves in healthy relationships. Being in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy is bound to blow up unexpectedly. Never feel ashamed about your needs. You may feel awkward at first, keep reminding yourself that healthy sugar arrangements are built on open communication and that you deserve someone who can keep you happy. Experienced Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies know better than settling for less than what they want.